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Hello, Happy Holidays! This is the time of year when people seem to be more easy-going. I’ve already seen the change while sitting in the midst of the mall watching folks. People stop, shake hands and have a little chat. Especially, this seems true of families. But, then, there is another side to this that I frequently hear from my coaching clients: “I’m going home for the holidays (or, the folks are coming my way—Duck!)—and I sure hope it’s different this year!” Why do we expect people to change one year to the next? The patterns we have established and, unfortunately, seem to perpetuate even with dread, will not change unless we do. One way to make that change is to improve your “people skills” and that happens from the inside out. Yes, it is imperative to get the best-honed skills you can, and then you have to change your outlook, perspective and approach if you want things to be different. Ah, yes! It comes down to each of us to be that difference. Mahatma Gandhi had it right, I think: Be the change you want to see in the world. New program:Workplace People Skills certification program! See details in this newsletter, or look online: www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com The people skills you need to feel competent, comfortable & confident. All classes taken on the phone. In this Issue:
KEEP READING…. Be a master communicator everyone admires and increase your comfort and confidence! I told you last month that I created a teleseminar series so that you can get the most up-to-date skills and strategies in the easiest possible way—right from your desk, on the phone. You can take advantage of these proven, systematic, cost-effective programs for the first time in January. I promise you that they deliver the leading edge information you need to be an advanced “Rhino Wrestler”!!! You can learn more at the website: www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com , and download the pdf with the full poster at www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com/certification/WorkplacePeopleSkills.pdf You could share that poster with others in your office by printing it out or sending that link along to them. The more people in your organization who have effective skills, the easier every day becomes with your team. The joy of the program is that it is offered ON THE PHONE for 90-minutes a week! What could be easier or more accessible? Nothing! Also, I am happy to provide your professional association with a course description so that you can get Continuing Education Credits for it, too. I wish you a very happy holiday season filled with love, joy, peace and prosperity. I look forward to finding ways for us to work together more in 2008 with teleseminars, on-site training, and consulting. We can make a big difference by who we are and what we bring to work with us everyday. Be that change! I wish you well. P.S. Have you taken the Core Values Profile yet? You will be amazed at how clearly the results will help you understand yourself and others. More importantly, you get great insight into why you like to work in certain ways, what drives you, and what drives you nuts…and why. It’s invaluable information if you want to move up in your company and forward in all your relationships. This may well be the best investment you have ever made in yourself or within your company. Take the Core Values Index™ online in ten minutes and get the results immediately. www.CoreValuesProfile.com Rhoberta Shaler, PhD INSPIRING WORDS FOR YOUR POST-IT™ NOTES
IMPROVING YOUR WORKLIFE:WHY CAN’T EVERYONE AROUND HERE BE MORE LIKE ME?© Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Do you think your workplace would benefit from being staffed by clones of yourself? Would that solve all the little issues that annoy, irritate or upset you often? Really? Well, who would do the things you do not like to do? Who would make you think? Who would give you a new perspective? Who would challenge you to expand your thinking…and your compassion? Learning to value our differences is a major psychological hurdle to get over. It seems that no matter where you look, people are in conflict, even at war, because their beliefs are different, their roots are different, or their history is different. In the workplace, it may be because their approach, background or style is different. The problem only occurs, of course, when either party makes an assumption: an assumption that being different means one side is important or right, and the other is secondary or wrong! Of course, you wouldn’t feel that way…would you? Sure, some differences are very troubling. If you are working or living with a person who hears voices telling them to hurt others, this is an unacceptable difference. It is clear that help is required. These are not differences to be overlooked, but rather, to be carefully monitored and brought to the attention of those in charge of safety and well-being! Most differences, however, are just as irritating as we decide to let them be. That's where your power lies. When we are feeling small and insignificant, everything seems bigger, bolder and dominant. That, then, is an internal problem. We are each in charge of our own self-esteem. No one is doing anything to us in that department unless we let them. And, why would we? Well-honed people skills give us the competence, the comfort and the confidence to speak up and teach people how to treat us. With patience and consistency, even the grumpiest, most miserable and “bossiest “ person can be tamed…to a degree. You become a Rhino Wrestler to do your best with the savage behavior of some rhinos. That’s your part of the equation. It is imperative to begin with ourselves. Get out the mirror and begin there. Every one of us is someone’s idea of a “rhino” at some time. We don’t like to think so because we prefer to think that all our behavior is justified. That’s our first mistake! Recently, I was working with an executive I am coaching and he said to me: Continue to remainder of article online >>> © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD All rights reserved. This article may be reprinted or republished if the complete copyright/resource information is kept intact. For a formatted version for print, email info@optimizeinstitute.com |
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