ANGER AT WORK.

If anger is an issue for you, resolve to learn to manage it productively for all concerned.
If anger is an issue for a co-worker, resolve to approach them differently.

It is as dangerous and unsatisfying to internalize anger as it is to spread it around freely complete with expletives, loud voices and threatening gestures. Both threaten relationships. One threatens the healthy relationship with yourself. Both threaten healthy relationships with others.

Anger is an indication of the perception of a boundary being crossed.

Someone does something that you do not want done. It is also an indication of fear, frustration or pain. Taking the time to articulate the reason for your anger is a great first step. Instead of screaming, "I'm angry", take this important, gigantic step forward. Say "I feel angry when ___________ happens. I feel angry because it scares (frustrates or hurts) me." Providing an insight into why you are experiencing the arousal of anger opens communication channels. Providing noise, movement, foul language and sabre-rattling only causes others to want to fight, run or freeze.

What are your current choices when you feel angry?

Think about your last week. When were you angry? Why were you angry? At whom were you angry? Did you express it? How did you express it? Did it move your relationship forward or push folks away from you? Did you turn it inward on yourself? This can produce many physical symptoms that are unpleasant.

If anger is an issue for you, resolve to learn to manage it productively for all concerned.

Dr. Shaler is an expert in the people skills that allow you to function confidently and competently in any situation. You can learn to handle confrontation and conflict with grace, diplomacy and panache!

The ability to handle - and more importantly, productively manage - conflict and difficult people is an important leadership skill that will open doors to new promotions, positions and responsibilities. Excellent people skills are not an accident in people who are successful. It takes work, training, practice & conscious effort to be on the ball all the time - but you can do it.

When will the squabbing cease??!!*#! If constant bickering in the office is driving you nuts... read this.

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